When spouses decide that a divorce is the only way to resolve their problems, they are often hurt, angry, and confused, while at the same time, they still retain feelings of caring and love for the other person. The traditional divorce litigation process is the quickest and most permanent way to destroy those feelings. Further, spouses worry that the process of litigation will only damage the bonds they have with their children and further hamper their ability to communicate with each other. Collaborative Divorce provides an option so that the good parts of the relationship are not further damaged, and that communication related to the children is as healthy as possible. Collaborative Divorce promotes mutual respect throughout the process, hands the control of it to the clients, and removes it from the judge. This joint empowerment puts the parties on the same team, often with the same goals. The process of working together to reach their mutual goals, not only preserves what is left of the relationship, but often strengthens and rebuilds some of what has been lost over the years.
The benefits of this process not only affect the children of the parties (regardless of their age). It also improves communication and relationships with extended family and mutual friends.
By bringing a team of trained professionals together to help couples restructure their relationship in an environment that does not pit them against each other, parents in Collaborative Divorce learn how to communicate so that when they need to both be present at an event for their children, family or friends, they are able to do so.